Warning: This is a sad, rambling post. I’m having trouble getting my thoughts together. But if there’s ever been a time when I need your comments or advice, this is it.
My friend lost her baby this week. Olivia (baby) had been diagnosed with a rare genetic disorder about halfway through the pregnancy. She was just days from her due date, but was “born into the arms of Jesus” on Friday.
Which makes me sad. Really sad.
I seem to know a lot of women who are experiencing some sort of “baby loss.” I have a few friends who have been struggling to conceive, many who have gone through miscarriages (some multiple times), and several who have had extremely premature babies. Finally, I know two whose babies have serious medical conditions that will ultimately cost them their lives within their first year of life.
And as sad as this makes me, I’m actually more confused.
Why does this happen? Why do these wonderful couples have to go through this?
And why have I been blessed with a nearly perfect little boy, and another healthy pregnancy? I often feel like hiding my belly when I’m around these women.
Let’s go even deeper…why do bad things happen to good people, in general? One of my friends lost her mom last week at the age of 54. She was also a beloved teacher in our community.
It’s all really hard for me to deal with. I like to make sense of situations, and that’s obviously difficult right now.
So really, I want to know, how do you make sense of it or deal with it? Whether through religion or some other means, please comment and let me know.
And what can I do for Olivia’s parents? We don’t live very near each other, and honestly, I’ve felt very awkward talking to them since I found out about Olivia’s diagnosis, because of my own pregnancy. But I want them to know that I care about them, am thinking about them, and praying for them. What else can I do?
I hate reading sad blog posts, the same way I hate reading sad news stories. But if you’ve read this far, please take time to leave me some advice, or say a little prayer for all these women, or something. Thanks.