I’m not a perfect mom, and I’m pretty sure I’ve never met one before. But still, we continue to judge each other online, saying things that I’m sure we would never say to each other face to face.
Recently, I was made fun of on Twitter because I mentioned I let my kid eat Easy Cheese.
#FoodD to give your kid easy cheese should be considered blasphemy.
— anonymous Twitter user November 20, 2013
My son is a picky eater and doesn’t like most meats. Easy Cheese has 4 grams of protein per serving, almost 1/4 of his daily protein needs. Adam is in the 10th percentile for weight, so the calories and fat content are not really an issue for him right now. The top ingredients in Easy Cheese are whey, cheddar cheese, canola oil, milk protein concentrate, milk, whey protein concentrate.
Speaking of meat, Adam tried Little Smokies and LIKED them! This was a huge victory for us. It brought his “acceptable” meat total up to 5: bacon, turkey pepperoni, shrimp, chicken nuggets and Little Smokies.
I was over the moon excited. I posted this photo with the caption "Little smokies, big success! He likes 5 kinds of meat now: bacon, smokies, chicken nuggets, shrimp and French fries. Oops. Guess that's only 4."
One of the first comments was this:
chicken nuggets......not exactly "meat" i would say the same for smokies. i cant even look at them because i remember eating them once at school for lunch, i took a bite and got gristle and bone. relationship: over.
Again, I was judged for the foods I feed my children.
I’m sure neither of my critics would claim to be perfect parents. Maybe those moms don’t feed their kids Easy Cheese and almost-meats. Maybe they let them play violent video games or watch too much TV instead. Maybe they swear in front of their kids. Maybe they are too permissive, or too strict, or too distracted. I’m sure there’s something they haven’t done perfectly in their time as a parent.
But here’s the deal:
It’s OKAY to give your kids Easy Cheese occasionally.
It’s okay to let your kids spend all day in front of the tv some days, every once in awhile.
It’s okay to skip bedtime books from time-to-time.
It’s okay to be an imperfect parent in this imperfect world…
So quit pointing out other parents’ flaws online. Quit assuming that you know the whole story. Quit pretending that someone else’s parenting failures are worse than your own.
Just quit the judging.