Most stay at home moms I know can’t imagine returning to work full time.
How will I possibly keep up on housework? I can’t keep up now!
You mean I have to drag myself and my kids out of the house by 7:30 every morning?
What is it like to shower everyday?
But I have good news for you.
Working full time, even after a 5 year hiatus, isn’t that bad, as long as
A) you love your job.
B) you know what’s important to you.
Working moms get to interact with adults and run errands on their lunch break, without kids in tow. They get to do something they’re good at, without anyone yelling at them or throwing temper tantrums. And if they’re lucky, they get to spend their days making a difference in a field that’s important to them, too. (That part is the key.)
Don’t get me wrong. It’s not always sunshine and roses. I’ve been back to work full time for about 3 months, now, and for the most part, the transition has gone more smoothly than I ever imagined. But there have been days at work that have been more stressful than others, leaving me drained. Sometimes, I just don’t have a lot of energy to tackle job #2, the housework and parenting. Other days, work invigorates me. I come home and keep the momentum going, making supper and completing the homework and bedroom routine like I’m June Cleaver.
Yesterday, I had to work from 5:30 to 3:00 (for a special project- this is not my regular work schedule) so this weekend is a prime example of the work/life issues that we all face. Except, my work and life are closely intertwined, and most days, yesterday included, don’t feel like work at all.
Although I try to spend Saturday mornings catching up on housework nowadays, I’m trying hard to ignore the fact that this place is a pigsty right now. Because you know what? My work and my life matter way more than the dishes in the sink.
So here’s my advice for you mommas that are considering going back to work, or who are working and miserable…
Choose a job you love and you’ll never work a day in your life. ~Confucious
Ignore that your house is dirty because it really doesn’t matter.
~ Katie Olthoff