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Tuesday, October 16, 2012

Why I Blog: New Friends

When I was planning my wedding, I spent a lot of time at  The “knotties” there were my first online friends.  I knew how they met their Fi (short for fiance), their engagement story, wedding colors, vendors they were using, and any drama they were experiencing.  But I didn’t know any of them in real life.image

After we were married and bought our first house, I met some new online friends on the message boards.  My new “friends” shared a love of home decorating, and helped me mull over endless choices – paint colors, furniture arrangements, etc. etc.

Then came work and babies.  My online time dwindled for awhile, and then started up again with blogs.  First, I read them.  Then, I decided to start my own. 

Now, three years later, one of the best parts about blogging is that I have made so many great friends.  Whether my bloggy buddies share an interest in home décor, are fellow farm wives, or have kids the same age as me, I’ve been able to connect with other women who understand a certain part of my life.


imageIn the past year, I’ve had the pleasure of meeting a few of my “imaginary” friends in real life.  First, at the Common Ground conference, I met “Gal in the Middle.”  She is a passionate advocate for agriculture and it was so great to meet her and so many other farm-women-bloggers.


I also got to meet up with “Jem’s Mom” and we hit it off like old friends.  She shares an interest in photography and gave me tips as we walked around Charleston together.img_5383(rev 0)

(Jem’s Mom and I)

Then, about a month ago, I saw a facebook post from another farmwife, Jent, saying that she was in Iowa for the weekend.  Less than 24 hours later, she was touring my farm.  It was such a great visit…I’m hoping her oldest daughter decides to go to Iowa State so I can hang out with Jent more often!


(Jent, Emi Lou and Chris)

imageAnd finally, this last weekend, I met one of my first “imaginary” friends from way back in the HGTV days.  Dacia and I both have old farmhouses in Iowa, and we’ve been facebook friends for the last few years, too.  She was in my neck of the woods and came over to see the house progress.  It was so fun to meet someone that I’ve “known” for so long!!


Isn’t amazing how the internet can be used to cultivate friendships?  A couple summers ago, I wrote about my dad’s friend from the Netherlands.  Dad met Wiecher on a message board for antique John Deere tractors, and eventually, Wiecher came to Iowa to see Dad’s tractors in real life. 


Sometimes I hear about how Facebook doesn’t cultivate real friendships, and that you have to have face-to-face time, too.  I think real-life friends are important, too (and I’m blessed to have some great ones!) but I’m also incredibly thankful for my online friends, too!


(Got any good “online friend” stories?  I’d love to hear them in the comments or on Facebook!)


  1. I LOVED meeting you, your boys (including hubs) and getting the privelage of touring your farm = it has put me on a mission to meet more of my "imaginary" friends! And I am still mad at myself that we never got a pic of you and me together - what were we thinking?????

  2. This is a good post, because those of us who blog are sometimes kidded about our "imaginary friends". I have only met one blogger in person, but she is a great lady and very creative, and it was a pleasure to meet her... I hope to meet more in the future.

  3. It's so true! When I started my blog I never would have imagined that I would have met so many amazing people! Blog friends are awesome!

  4. Awesome post!!! I loved meeting you and it was wonderful to have that instant friendship! Lord knows we could have talked all day! My husband kids me about my blog friendships, but I think it is an amazing place to connect with women who share a love of life, family, decor, or whatever. Isn't that what friendship is all about? Thanks for including me. I was so glad to meet you, but I am not sure who the old lady is in the picture with you! I am much younger looking in my mind!!! Ha!

  5. We should have taken a photo. It is true, I think of you as a real friend. You're not like my imaginary friend I had as a child - everyone can see you! hee hee I'm glad we were able to visit for a short while. I hope to come back when I have more time. I'd love to go junking with you!