tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2857161791109887176.post8287598124861084354..comments2016-05-25T08:56:42.320-05:00Comments on On the Banks of Squaw Creek: Why?Katie @ On the Banks of Squaw Creekhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11530237661834412493noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2857161791109887176.post-44813010724367840832011-01-24T14:55:59.681-06:002011-01-24T14:55:59.681-06:00I am one of those that cannot conceive, I ask the ...I am one of those that cannot conceive, I ask the same questions all the time. The only thing that I can come up with is that everyone is put here for some purpose, some apparently to endure more, and feel more pain than others. Some to have children of their own to adore, some to just be awesome aunts and uncles. I have nothing really useful to say, except I know what you mean, and I&#39;m ~lifedramatic~http://www.blogger.com/profile/15985763001059545599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2857161791109887176.post-84810512316098089612011-01-19T08:55:48.663-06:002011-01-19T08:55:48.663-06:00You will have to forgive my late night poor choice...You will have to forgive my late night poor choice of words. I meant to say, &quot;In addition to us&quot; not instead.<br /><br />I hope I didn&#39;t offend you.Jackiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03936900354153453823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2857161791109887176.post-19119022997173347942011-01-19T00:34:31.694-06:002011-01-19T00:34:31.694-06:00I was in bed trying to sleep when this thought cam...I was in bed trying to sleep when this thought came to me, I had to get up and share. <br /><br />Perhaps you should ask God this question instead of us.Jackiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03936900354153453823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2857161791109887176.post-82656801722473258072011-01-18T21:13:52.135-06:002011-01-18T21:13:52.135-06:00Brigham reached up and touched the burner on the o...Brigham reached up and touched the burner on the other day. It burned his little thumb...the one he sucks on.<br /><br />Was it sad? Absolutely. Did he learn something? You betcha. I wish I could take away his pain. I wish I didn&#39;t&#39; have to make him clean his room or do chores. But I have to. Because I want him to learn and grow. I can look past what he can see and recognize the good in Jackiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03936900354153453823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2857161791109887176.post-24757839306957036352011-01-18T00:36:12.199-06:002011-01-18T00:36:12.199-06:00So sorry to hear of your friends loss and know how...So sorry to hear of your friends loss and know how troubling and sad it is for you. Leah summed it up with be natural and simply say &quot;I am so sorry.&quot; <br /><br />I have lost two babies and recently found out I can&#39;t have any more. I really fought this and cried and prayed. I couldn&#39;t understand why people who didn&#39;t need babies or take care of them could have as many as Jemsmomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06363175271078259922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2857161791109887176.post-40860452823873754482011-01-17T22:02:15.962-06:002011-01-17T22:02:15.962-06:00I just lead out church&#39;s Saturday worship on t...I just lead out church&#39;s Saturday worship on this exact topic: Having Faith in Hard Times. And a big part of what I talked about was questioning WHY do bad things happen to good people. Here&#39;s the answer: Because life isn&#39;t fair. It stinks, and dwelling on the why of things doesn&#39;t help. It&#39;s completely normal and human to ask why, but the thing is, we are not meant to iafarmwife.comhttp://iafarmwife.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2857161791109887176.post-29034707692158484242011-01-17T15:09:47.616-06:002011-01-17T15:09:47.616-06:00I think we all at times wonder &quot;why?&quot; O...I think we all at times wonder &quot;why?&quot; Often there are no answers, it just is. My heart goes out to your friends who are grieving their immense loss. Praying.Southern Bellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17879033783353679631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2857161791109887176.post-7211473368039511582011-01-17T12:49:46.119-06:002011-01-17T12:49:46.119-06:00Trust that God is bigger than all of this, and He ...Trust that God is bigger than all of this, and He already knows why. <br /><br />I was in a similar situation during my pregnancy... it is hard to watch friends suffer, but trust that they aren&#39;t blaming you.amber waves of grainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15847849885966311153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2857161791109887176.post-41006627693256699202011-01-16T23:30:31.994-06:002011-01-16T23:30:31.994-06:00Katie, I&#39;m so sorry. All of the experiences yo...Katie, I&#39;m so sorry. All of the experiences you mentioned are such difficult ones. So sad. You&#39;ve been given such good advice in the above comments. There&#39;s little more I can add, but I&#39;ll try. I, too, had a stillborn baby. The thing that I most appreciated after our lose was people coming up to me and acknowledging my grief. Simple words are best like: &quot;I&#39;m so sorry forSuzannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02983001733321736540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2857161791109887176.post-28494281555168596892011-01-16T22:05:16.465-06:002011-01-16T22:05:16.465-06:00aaawww Katie *hugs* There are loads of comments he...aaawww Katie *hugs* There are loads of comments here.. and Im not sure I know what to say... But I do beleive that there is always a reason for things to happen... My hubby lost his best friend two months ago.. only when after 5 years of struggle... him &amp; his wife were finally getting things under control and living a normal - happy life.. I just couldnt understand what God had in mind.. But Patricia Torreshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12279007811626416052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2857161791109887176.post-47600725557775434832011-01-16T21:53:39.261-06:002011-01-16T21:53:39.261-06:00Aw, honey. I&#39;m sorry to hear about all the aw...Aw, honey. I&#39;m sorry to hear about all the awful news you&#39;re having around you. I really dont know what to say- no one has a perfect explanation as to why life is the way it is. My guess is that when this life is over, we will be in Heaven, and have a moment of clarity and understand exactly why it was the way it was. I do know that as awful as it may be, everything happens for a ~ Reganhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12183630069063636603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2857161791109887176.post-31287353274839257402011-01-16T21:50:09.692-06:002011-01-16T21:50:09.692-06:00Katie, you&#39;ve gotten so much good advice alrea...Katie, you&#39;ve gotten so much good advice already and I really don&#39;t have words, just sorrow. Here&#39;s a virtual hug and a prayer for you and each of these sad situations.Elliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06521040589867251837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2857161791109887176.post-19826912807990674782011-01-16T20:18:49.270-06:002011-01-16T20:18:49.270-06:00Oh Katie I&#39;m so sorry to hear about all your f...Oh Katie I&#39;m so sorry to hear about all your friends. I agree, don&#39;t hide your pregnancy. No human understands why things like this happens but I do know that the good Lord has a reason for everything and that he will always get us through rough times. As for what you can do for your friends, just be there. Listen when they need someone to talk to, give a shoulder to cry on and just Nana's Fun Stuffhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02928852751649205194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2857161791109887176.post-79818451221958644202011-01-16T19:02:27.708-06:002011-01-16T19:02:27.708-06:00So sorry to hear of your friends loss. I have in s...So sorry to hear of your friends loss. I have in similar situations and have asked myself those very questions and have felt guilty for having a healthy happy family. <br /><br />You need to be there for your friend. A weekly e-mail or a call letting her know you are there even if you don&#39;t get a response she will at least know your are there and that you care. Because as much as it is Kimhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05830153113971498292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2857161791109887176.post-24541613594614514752011-01-16T18:53:51.262-06:002011-01-16T18:53:51.262-06:00Praying for you and your friend, Katie. There are ...Praying for you and your friend, Katie. There are not easy answers...but I know having experienced loss this past year how much I just needed my friends...knowing they were there if I wanted to talk about it but not having them ask about it either. There are no easy answers...but that&#39;s part of being human. Everyone deals and heals in their own time. I just recently started a devotional book Jane @ Going Janehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11803619603267053890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2857161791109887176.post-47126261370391413202011-01-16T18:51:16.043-06:002011-01-16T18:51:16.043-06:00I&#39;ve had friends with similar stories. Just kn...I&#39;ve had friends with similar stories. Just know that they will keeping trying, when they feel comfortable again, and eventually have a healthy, beautiful baby. The best thing you can do to offer them comfort is let them know you&#39;re available to talk when they feel like talking. Or to not talk if that&#39;s what they want. Sometimes people just need time and space, so don&#39;t feel Mandynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2857161791109887176.post-73365001750508344062011-01-16T18:47:21.729-06:002011-01-16T18:47:21.729-06:00Oh Katie, I wish I had the answer to that question...Oh Katie, I wish I had the answer to that question. That is one of lifes hardest questions, and I&#39;ve asked it myself before. I deal with this by holding on to my faith. My hope that someday there will be a world for us that does not hold these types of heartaches, and the only explanation I can understand is that we are not there yet. We are still in a hugely imperfect world that is The Decorative Dreamerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05279782113691828056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2857161791109887176.post-90076042519608941312011-01-16T18:36:30.398-06:002011-01-16T18:36:30.398-06:00Sorry for the typo&#39;s. I had about 5 interrupt...Sorry for the typo&#39;s. I had about 5 interruptions as I tried to get my thoughts down and just hit sent at the first opening!Lanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06003384586082557583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2857161791109887176.post-34167421400271569982011-01-16T18:35:25.135-06:002011-01-16T18:35:25.135-06:00Out community just lost a little girl, almost two ...Out community just lost a little girl, almost two years old. It is incomprehensible. An older member of our church was talking to me about it, and she asked me, &quot;Why?&quot;<br /><br />I really don&#39;t think any of us can begin to answer that question. I believe it is part of God&#39;s plan, and we will never know until we are there with him. It is a HUGE leap of faith, and probably Lanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06003384586082557583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2857161791109887176.post-30031214144058199962011-01-16T18:33:04.043-06:002011-01-16T18:33:04.043-06:00Don&#39;t &quot;hide&quot; your pregnancy from the...Don&#39;t &quot;hide&quot; your pregnancy from them. They are not less happy for you because of their own sadness. Being a recent and expecting mom, you have an understanding of their loss that other people don&#39;t have, because you understand what their fear and pain would feel like. Even though we could not conceive a healthy baby again, I never begrudged those who were having babies. In Lornanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2857161791109887176.post-74772708558014037072011-01-16T18:30:25.904-06:002011-01-16T18:30:25.904-06:00I am so sorry for your friend and for the other la...I am so sorry for your friend and for the other ladies you have mentioned.<br /><br />I also lost a baby several years ago. I was 14 weeks along when our baby left this world and went into Jesus&#39; arms. I was 16 weeks along when I had him. I carried him for two weeks knowing he was dead. Was it hard? Yes, it was so very hard. But, let me tell you that I had a peace that passed all Amy Kinserhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01772181702486470463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2857161791109887176.post-22156409771362467472011-01-16T18:16:56.854-06:002011-01-16T18:16:56.854-06:00Katie, just be a &quot;normal&quot; friend. I too ...Katie, just be a &quot;normal&quot; friend. I too have had friends with similar stories...lack of pregnancies, miscarriages, lost babies after minutes or days of life. I don&#39;t get it either. One of my friends however thanked me for just being normal with her. Asking her how she was, really was, and also saying, I am not going to ask you all the time, so if you want to talk, just talk. But donLeah @ Beyer Bewarehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14196975840269617794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2857161791109887176.post-31450007844161286022011-01-16T18:14:04.603-06:002011-01-16T18:14:04.603-06:00wow, katie. i don&#39;t have any answers or advic...wow, katie. i don&#39;t have any answers or advice, but i can say that i do sincerely believe that there is a reason for everything. we don&#39;t know the reason when it&#39;s happening to us and seems so tragic, and we may never know the reasons while we are on earth, but i know it all comes together in a place where we all are reunited with the people we loved and lost. i am so sorry for yourCassie @ Primitive &amp; Properhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07848936864799611251noreply@blogger.com